Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that’s not what love is all about.
Loving behavior doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behavior nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace.
Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, p381 (via mxnotmrdarcy)
This also applies to survivors of abusive relationships.
Hitting close to home with this. Though for the first time ever I think I understand what love feels like.
I asked him if he wanted me to try choking him, he said maybe, I said “no pressure.” XD XD XD
It’s ok, I’ll wait until you get it.
God, I’m funny.
I love that this has 64 notes. Not just because it’s an awful pun, but because it’s the opposite of a rape joke — it’s actually a consent joke, and it just makes me happy that people have gotten a kick out of it. :)
While you are down there….suck it!
Everything about this shot and this person is just entracingly beautiful.
The reason why NBC’s Hannibal found such a huge female audience is because Fuller’s/Mads’ Lecter is not a male power fantasy: he’s a female power fantasy.
WELP, I was curious about this show before, but now I’ve *gotta* watch it.
I can hardly believe this amazing creature is real. X|
I want a trouble-maker for a lover, blood spiller, blood drinker, a heart of flame, who quarrels with the sky and fights with fate, who burns like fire on the rushing sea.
Rumi (via bloodash)
I tend to fall for intense people.
When you’re so into someone that you feel the need to give every single piece of them the attention they deserve. <3
5 months on testosterone. This is my last photo update before I leave for Ghana for 2-3 (or more) months. Pre-T weight: 114lbs. 5 month on T weight: 135lbs. It will be interesting to see the changes over the summer!
Thanks again, Tyler, I appreciate you documenting my journey.
Love fellow trans guys with long hair!
Nnf, that is one gorgeous dude.